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BLACK GODDESS COLLECTIVE
Calling all Black Women who want to learn how to tap into more sexual satisfaction, deeper body acceptance, and self-love. You’re invited to join us in Fort Lauderdale for THE BODYSEX CIRCLE to reconnect with your feminine self and bond with a new sisterhood.
Imagine returning home appreciating your body, owning your orgasm, and prioritizing your pleasure.
SOUND FAMILIAR?
✔️ I put my partner’s sexual needs ahead of my own, so I rarely feel sexually satisfied.
✔️ It’s hard to slow down, turn off my brain, and really enjoy sex. I’m either thinking of what I need to do, thinking-wishing-hoping that I have an orgasm too.
✔️ I’m single and haven’t dated in ages, so my sex life doesn’t exist…even with myself.
✔️ I just wish my body looked better.
YOU ARE ENOUGH!
You don’t need sexier lingerie, a better lover, or a different body!
All you need is the right education, stimulation, and support to become the expert of your own body… and your own pleasure.
Enter Bodysex.
WHAT IS BODYSEX?
Bodysex® is an educational and transformational method developed over 40 years ago by Betty Dodson, PhD, who was an icon in the field of sex education. She aimed to help women heal body shame and pleasure anxiety while exploring how to have better orgasms.
Bodysex Core Beliefs:
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Sexual pleasure and independent orgasm is a fundamental human right. It is the source of life and creativity.
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Masturbation is the foundation of all human sexuality.
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The clitoris is a woman’s primary sensory sex organ.
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All women can orgasm with the right support, education and stimulation.
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Every woman is the expert of her own body.
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Self-Pleasure is healing and a part of self-care.
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WHY BODYSEX?
You, as a Black woman, have been groomed to work, to struggle, and to push through life which often leaves you feeling disconnected from your body and your pleasure.
The Black Goddess Collective seeks to bring Bodysex to you as a way to:
🌸 correct years of miseducation about your sexual anatomy
🌸 celebrate your beautiful Black body
🌸 collectively heal trauma and shame around sex
Goddess, it’s time to expand your capacity to receive more satisfying sexual pleasure.
We invite you to our BODYSEX CIRCLE to begin your journey of education, self-pleasure, and self-love. Black Goddess Collective curates Bodysex Circles exclusively for Black women because we understand the need to create vulnerable, safe spaces so you can be honest and real about your challenges as a Black woman. This workshop will allow you to feel the sisterhood of unconditional acceptance, compassion, and support.
WHAT TO EXPECT FROM THE BODYSEX CIRCLE?
What you’ve been NEEDING is finally here! A Self-Pleasure experience designed to give you the sexual wellness and educational tools to heal and expand your relationship to your sexuality so that you can embody the Feminine Goddess within.
The Bodysex Circle is a sacred space that occurs in the nude, but is not sexual.
You’ll learn what nobody ever taught you about your pleasure and your sexual anatomy, so you can . . .
🌸 appreciate your body more!
🌸 increase your pleasure capacity!
🌸 more easily access your orgasm (with or without a partner)!
🌸 learn how to become comfortable with
self-pleasure (aka masturbation)!
Our Curriculum includes:
1. VULVA EDUCATION
You’ll learn all about your vulva (ladies, it’s vulva not only vagina) and your pleasure anatomy by looking at Betty’s vulva sketches, anatomical drawings, and the internal clitoral structure.
Women have the most sophisticated sex organ on the planet capable of endless pleasure. All women can orgasm. The clitoris is evergreen – it never ages – you can have orgasms until the day you die. And the great news is ladies, it's never too late to begin.
We’ll teach you about different types of orgasms and masturbation techniques so you can discover what you like best. Imagine having more confidence about how to please yourself (whether or not you have a partner) AND ask for what you want in the bedroom (if you do have a partner).
2. GENITIAL SHOW & TELL
Think about how many times you look at your face but not your sex organ. To fully embrace sexual pleasure, you must understand your basic anatomy, find the parts that bring you to orgasm, and claim your body for your own pleasure.
During Genital Show & Tell, you’ll explore your own vulva, see the diversity of other women’s genitalia and let go of genital shame and replace it with pride. You’ll identify your clitoris, clitoral shaft, inner and outer labia, pelvic floor muscle, urethral sponge (the g-spot), and choose a name for your vulva. When you view, touch, and name your sex organ, you take ownership of your body. Pleasure exists for you and those you choose to share it with….period.
3. CIRCLE SHARE
Together, we’ll pull back the layers of shame, guilt, misinformation and trauma to reveal your true sexual self. Through the Bodysex Circle, you’ll authentically share how you feel about your body and your orgasm in a welcoming, non-judgmental space. Being a part of a group of supportive women, sharing struggles and experiences will help you release your own shame.
The Bodysex Circle fosters open and honest discussions that will help you know that you’re not alone in your sexual struggles and gives you practical tools so you can own and enhance your sexual pleasure (i.e. have more consistent orgasms!)
4. EROTIC RECESS
Have you ever given yourself a vulva massage? The only way you can be an expert of your own body is by exploring and practicing. Then and only then can you bring yourself to blissful pleasure and ask your partner for what you want sexually.
Did you know that breath and sound can generate a deep orgasm? Combining the power of your breath and sound can lead to deeply, powerful orgasms.
Have you discovered all the parts of your vulva that feel good? For example, you can experience orgasms just by applying pressure to your outer labia.
Throughout the Bodysex experience you’ll learn all of this plus so much more. During Erotic Recess, you’ll get to apply and practice everything you learned by exploring on your own body, without judgment or expectations. Get ready for a powerful, transformational ritual.
WORKSHOP SCHEDULE
Our workshop will happen November 10-11, 2023 at a private residential retreat space in Fort Lauderdale, Florida. The exact location will be sent upon registration. Please note Miami Airport is about a 1 hour drive from Fort Lauderdale.
DAY ONE NOVEMBER 10, 2023
1:00pm Welcome
2:00pm Vulva Education
3:00pm Circle share
4:00pm Genital Show and Tell
6:00pm Close Circle
DAY TWO NOVEMBER 11, 2023
1:00pm Welcome
2:00pm Vulva Education
3:00pm Erotic Recess
4:00pm Group Activity & Share
6:00pm Close Circle
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Black Goddess Bodysex Circle Sessions
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Black Goddess Pleasure Kit (3 tools you'll need)
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Gourmet Healthy Snacks
WORKSHOP INCLUSIONS
WHAT'S NOT INCLUDED?
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Hotel accommodations
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Meals
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Airfare to and from Florida. Please note we recommend you fly into Fort Lauderdale Airport because the Miami Airport is 1 hour away.
Women have the most sophisticated sex organ on the planet capable of endless pleasure. All women can orgasm.
The Black Goddess Bodysex Circle is a safe space for Black women to begin the healing journey together, in sisterhood.
In this transformative experience, you can heal the layers of guilt, shame, negative body image, and pleasure anxiety that make it hard to get out of your mind and back into your body.
This workshop is exclusively for Black women vulva owners. All sizes, shapes, orientations, and abilities are welcome.
If you are pregnant, menstruating,
or menopausal, please join us. As long as you have a vulva, Bodysex is for you.
YOU DESERVE THIS!
Join us in Fort Lauderdale and step into a Bodysex Circle.
We’re committed to helping you, as a Black woman, reconnect to the truth that sexual pleasure and orgasm is your birthright.
YOU ARE ENOUGH!
There’s absolutely nothing wrong with you or your body! All you need is the right education, stimulation, and support so you become the expert of your own body and your own pleasure.
Get ready for a blissful, full body, earth shattering, pleasure in all parts of your life! See you soon!
BODYSEX FAQs
WHERE IS WORKSHOP LOCATED
In a private residential retreat space in Fort Lauderdale, Florida, conveniently located 15 minutes away from Fort Lauderdale Airport, within 2 miles of restaurants, grocery stores, and shopping malls. The exact location will be sent upon registration. Please note Miami Airport is 1 hour drive from Fort Lauderdale.
WHY ONLY BLACK WOMEN BODYSEX ?
As a little Black girl, were you taught that touching “down there” was bad and a no-no? The truth is a Black woman’s pleasure has never been a priority or even an expectation. So, of course, opening up and having an honest conversation about sex is hard.
And for Black Women especially, your sexual pleasure and orgasms (or the lack thereof) has been given little attention or understanding. The Euro Centric, Colonizing Patricial, Western American culture (yeah, it’s a mouthful but we said that) has conditioned you to compare and devalue your natural Black Body.
After a few hours in a Bodysex circle, you’ll begin to unravel all of the BS that has been fed to you and learn lifelong practical tools to unlock and eventually master your own sexual pleasure and satisfaction. And by the way ladies, unlocking this door will unlock the other parts of you that you may find also unsatisfying and unfulfilling
WHO IS THIS FOR?
The workshop is exclusively for Black women vulva owners. All sizes, shapes, orientations, and abilities are welcome. If you are pregnant, menstruating, or menopausal, please join us. As long as you have a vulva/vagina, Bodysex is for you.
WHERE CAN I LEARN MORE ABOUT BODYSEX?
Go to Netflix and find The Goop Lab with Gweneth Paltrow. Watch the “The Pleasure is Ours” episode (Season 1; Episode 3) with Betty Dodson to see if this is right for you.
WHAT IS INCLUDED IN WORKSHOP?
The workshop includes two days of Bodysex curriculum, daily snacks, water, magic wand and barbell. Accommodations, travel and meals are not included in the workshop price.
WHY NUDITY?
The heart of the workshop is vulnerability. During retreat you’ll become more transparent to yourself and to each other so that we might uncover things that are keeping us from experiencing pleasure and accepting ourselves as we are. Clothes project an image of who we are and in Bodysex we want to be as close to our authentic selves as we can be so that the healing processes can happen. This will also help to heal negative body image. Time with others in this state will help us develop a deeper level of comfort within our bodies.
WILL WE BE NAKED DURING THE ENTIRE WORKSHOP?
No, you will not be naked for the entire workshop. You will be naked only during Bodysex circles at designated times. Otherwise, you’ll be fully clothed. Please know your privacy, safety and comfort is paramount. We will be in a safe, private environment with only the retreat participants.
WILL THERE BE ANY SHARED SEXUAL EXPERIENCES?
ABSOLUTELY NOT. Bodysex is not sexual. During retreat, you will be naked ONLY during the Bodysex Circle teaching. There will be no shared sexual experiences. There will be no touching other people whatsoever. All touching is self touching.
WHY LOOK SO INTIMATELY AT OURSELVES AND ONE ANOTHER’S BODIES?
The purpose is to familiarize ourselves with our genitals so we can better understand their function and how they look. It is uncommon for many individuals to have looked at their own genitals. And it is even more uncommon to have shown our genitals to others. Knowing sexual parts is all-important to enhance our orgasmic and pleasure potential. Seeing other genitals helps us to appreciate the samenesses and differences. Enough can’t be said about the power of others admiring this most sacred part of our body. It has the power to heal shame, celebrate beauty, and really connect us to our sexual selves as nothing else can
WHY INCLUDE MASTURBATION IN THE WORKSHOP?
Many of us can be stuck in our known self-pleasure (masturbation) practices and this is a way for you to rethink your practice. A demonstration is done for tips and pointers. We are here to fully learn about our sexuality within our bodies. Masturbation is the foundation of our learning. Doing it together becomes a celebration! We find in breaking this cultural taboo, it becomes natural and a fun learning experience. The best way to learn is by having fun. The experience of witnessing others’ self-generated sexual pleasure and having our’s witnessed is both powerful and vulnerable. There is no right or wrong way to do this. The point is to enjoy yourself as much as possible in the presence of others. Orgasm is not the goal. If you have an orgasm or two or three, that is great and if you don’t that is great too.
WHAT IF I’M NERVOUS?
Participants report that the most nerve-wracking minutes are just before arriving and when they first join the circle. And overwhelmingly they say that the fear, shame, and anxiety lift within minutes after people begin sharing. If you believe that being nude may be an issue for you, please schedule a call with us before registering so we can understand better.
WHAT IF I CHANGE MY MIND AND AM NO LONGER COMFORTABLE WITH BEING NUDE?
If at any time you feel uncomfortable, please know that you can share your candid concerns directly with us at any time. We strive to create a safe and non judgemental space for all participants, however in the unlikely event that you wish to opt out of the Bodysex Circles, you'll be supported.
WHAT IF I HAVE MY PERIOD?
No problem. Someone almost always has their period. You can use a tampon, menstrual cup, or a piece of natural sea sponge during the body celebration ritual and erotic recess.
WHAT IF I HAVE A YEAST INFECTION?
No problem. Simply do what you normally do to treat a yeast infection (whether that is probiotics + dietary adjustments, or a Monistat egg) and participate fully.
WHAT IF I CAN'T ORGASM?
If you orgasm, great. If you don't, that's ok too. Orgasm is NOT the goal. We're here to heal body shame, overcome sexual guilt and experience true connection. There's no agenda and no expectations.
IF YOU HAVE ANOTHER QUESTION OR CONCERN...
Feel free to email us at blackgoddesscollective@gmail.com and we can jump on a quick call to answer any questions you may have.
YOUR HOSTS
BLACK GODDESS COLLECTIVE is a wellness retreat company focused on holistic healing and the overall well-being of Black women. We lead wellness retreats centered on self-care and self-pleasure.
✨ Our mission is to help Black women create lives that are DRIPPING with pleasure, joy, and freedom.
✨ Our vision is that Black women will reconnect to pleasure as their birthright.
Tosh Patterson is a certified Pleasure Educator and Coach who teaches women how to have satisfying orgasms and RECLAIM PLEASURE.
She earned a Masters degree in Counseling, as well as certifications in the Bodysex Method and Erotic Blueprint Coaching (both as seen on Netflixs Sex, Love, & Goop). Plus she’s a passionate expert in Sound Healing Massage.
Regine here! Attorney by trade; coach, speaker & retreat leader by passion. Obsessed with all things spirituality and personal growth.
I'm also certified in meditation, a Kemetic (Egyptian) yoga teacher with 500 hours of training, and a Level 2 Emotional Freedom Technique (Tapping) Coach. Through my own passion, I've built a six-figure business helping other women tap into their passions and find their purpose.
CONTACT US
Feel free to email us at blackgoddesscollective@gmail.com, and we can jump on a quick call to answer any questions you may have.
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